D11 It is not others but yourself that you need reconciliation most

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Maybe you have experienced some heart-piercing pain these years

Some things that can’t be passed on are left deep in your heart for many years

You always thought that as long as you don’t touch these wounds

They will heal, and you can forget the damage

The days have passed, your life has been moving forward

Busy life leaves you no free time for a moment

To remember these long-lasting scars

For a moment, you thought you had already gotten rid of all the pain

But dreaming back at midnight will twitch your heart like a bug

You may blame the person who hurt you

Hate everything they bring to you

You may hate God and ask why it let the disaster come to you

But more often, you will blame yourself for being coward

Allow people to hurt you and your loved ones

Let these sad and angry emotions surround you

You long for a pair of hands that can save you from these pains

Over the years, you may have tried to use work, medicine, alcohol, etc. to provide relief for yourself

You think you can use these external forces to save yourself

But in fact, only you in this world can make yourself let go

The most important thing to reconcile with yourself is not to forgive those who hurt you

It’s to let you know that there are things that happen in your life that you can’t control

Those mistakes are not because of your source, nor are they because of you.

What you need to forgive most is not others but yourself

Only you in this world can embrace yourself

When you are willing to let yourself go

You may understand the meaning of bad things that happen to you

In the process of self-reconciliation

First, you need some paper and a pen

After that, you can find a quiet space

Set aside your phone and everything that will hinder you

Start thinking and meditate afterward

Let me give you some direction

For example, you disagree with your colleagues on a collaborative project at work

Colleagues say bad things about you, and the project is finally over

In this process, you can think about

It’s your colleague’s bad words that hurt you

Or the end of the cooperative project makes your efforts in vain

So you have always been brooding

The whole process may be endless

It may not be the answer in one or two days

But tell yourself

You are solving it step by step

It doesn’t matter if there is a stop time on the way

Because you have taken the most challenging step to face the most authentic self

Finally, remember not to feel ashamed or guilty because of your feelings

Understand that you have an absolute right to have different emotions

Can be angry, can be sad, can be frustrated

No one can accuse you

You only need to be honest with yourself

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